Learning how to Prefer the ‘Differences’ inside your Relationship!
Variations are not necessarily proper or wrong, simply various!
Is it not human character to be drawn to others of similarity? Is it not really logical that couples who have many things in common are most productive in relationships? That being similar to each other holds greater promise than being various?
How often seen someone comment how much they reveal in common with the partner, but it has proved absolutely no guarantee?
Commonalities or differences exist within so many facets of life from ethnic, social, cerebral, political, bodily, emotional realms… up to the more intrinsic character of values, objectives and beliefs for instance. The list is absolutely immeasurable. Yet how does one gauge the value of distinction when the concept of difference is subjective?
When couples meet with some of a future together, many people look for the commonalities. This is the shared passions, the mutual understandings, the commonalities shared as opposed to the differences that aren’t. Yet it is often the famous ‘differences’ between people which can dictate the decision not to go after a relationship as much people think about it is our commonalities or similarities that complement and suggest a combined future of pleasure, as opposed to the distinctions!
Commonalities may be more easily enjoyed, because superficially they don’t generally pose the threat regarding challenge. But where is the guarantee?
‘Differences’ however may need more ‘work’, ‘energy’, or even ‘considerations’… yet perhaps you should enjoy the challenge they pose instead of viewing them as an incompatibility. Consider what they can show you!
Dwelling on your ‘differences’ can work to divide instead of drawing you better. Attempt to produce growth in your partnership by considering how your differences can complement your relationship rather than potentially creating conflict. Often ‘difference’ is blamed as a source of clash.
Perhaps it is the contrasts that seemingly set us apart which can prove the attraction? Or maybe the curiosity of the unknown and a willingness to learn and appreciate that which is not comprehended? Who’s to evaluate what qualifies because ‘different’ anyway?
Variations are not necessarily proper or wrong, simply various!
If people spent less time focusing on their own similarities and more time exploring and appreciating their own differences, although they are not distinctions for too long.
Therefore seeking similarities doesn’t guarantee compatibility, so neither should differences be ignored. Trying to view ‘things inside a new light’ as well as celebrating your differences… could possibly prove more supporting than you think!
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